I am a person who didn’t necessarily get on with people, especially females, off the bat. The smiles and hellos and how are yous were me being cordial and not me wanting to be life long friends or even acquaintances for that matter. I could be very guarded and stone faced if I don’t know you or am not comfortable upon the first greeting. I have gotten much better throughout the years and have been more open and definitely more kind. You know, trying to lead by example so my kids don’t go around muggin’ everybody.
I went to an all girls high school where many alpha females were in attendance and honesty, loyalty, and respect were lacking. We didn’t like each other for the most meaningless reasons, then got along well after a retreat or something, right back to hating each other all over just because of much hearsay. Hella hearsay. Oh, high school! But we were kids. We didn’t know better. At the time, people giving us advice were our peers who were going through the same things and you just learn to Trust. No. One.
Fast forward to adulthood and marriage. When you marry a person with siblings you gain sister in laws. Women you must learn to love and/or at least to understand and respect. Thank God, I got good ones. We try to spend as much time together as we can. We laugh. We gab. We cling together at family parties. Most importantly, we are there for one another. I grew up with a brother so having sisters in laws that I actually like is treat for me! Ha!
Of course, as in every tight group, there are misunderstandings, miscommunication, and disagreements but we are sisters by marriage but very much friends by choice. We are all alpha females in our own right and still get along quite well. We enjoy each other’s company. We respect each other, support each other and we sincerely love each other. They came with the marriage and our friendship is also very much til’ death do us part.
“She stands firmly on her own two feet and I just behind her; should she ever need me.”
In this materialistic land we roam today, amazing gifts are measured by how expensive it is, how high it is on a top 100 list, or how envious you can make someone when you put it up on the ‘gram. Let’s face it, being a stay at home mom doesn’t pay the bills so it won’t buy extravagance for any other outside of the home. So I try hard to really think up gifts that suit the receiver so I know every penny I spent was worth it to them. Thought is a huge part in my gift giving. That is, of course, if I’m not extremely backed up with kid things and if I know with absolute certainty that cash and a gift card is what they yearn for the most.
It was one of my very bestest friends’ birthday a couple of months ago and we don’t always exchange gifts on birthdays because we prefer time and talk over objects anyway. But this year when I thought about her birthday, I thought about the perfect gift for her. A video I came across on Facebook (watch here!) got me sucked in and intrigued. It was the video of a man who created MyIntent Project. It’s simple unique jewelry that shares meaningful intentions. The website states:
“MyIntent Project is a catalyst for meaningful conversations and positive action. We believe there is purpose inside each of us and we want our efforts to encourage people to share more truth and inspiration with each other.
We are not a jewelry company – we are a service project.”
Refreshing, am I right? You simply go on the website, choose the type of accessory, and choose your WORD.
For my dear friend I chose “SORELLA” which means sister in Italian. She moved to Italy for a bit to rejuvenate and refocus. It was an important chapter in her life so all things Italian holds a very special place in her heart. And her being my one of my dearest friends, she holds a very special place in mine. So I gave her this gift so she will forever know MY intent. To continue to be there for her as I’ve always been no matter where life leads us. That I will never judge her for her most truest feelings. That I always will be happy for her success and always be by her side during her milestones. That I will infinitely appreciate the friendship and loyalty she has given me since day one on that crazy Colma night.
What’s special to you? What’s your hope or dream for the future?